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Every relationship hits a bump in the road at some point or another.<\/p>\n
Some of us are able to work through our differences with our partner without too much trouble, but others benefit from a mediator.<\/p>\n
Couples therapy is a path many partners choose to fix their problems, but one therapist shared some tell-tale phrases that tell her the relationship is doomed.<\/p>\n
Kristina Virro, a psychotherapist from Ontario, spoke on TikTok about the \u2018red-flag\u2019 statements her clients make.<\/p>\n
She said: \u2018The first one is when somebody in the room says, \u201cwell, this is just who I am\u201d. <\/p>\n
\u2018Here\u2019s what I hear when somebody says that \u2013 \u201cI have no desire to change my behaviours whatsoever. This is what you signed up for, so you better just accept it\u201d.<\/p>\n
\u2018It\u2019s just this air of close mindedness and an unwillingness to turn inward to figure out how can they make this relationship better.\u2019<\/p>\n
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While this does sound like a pretty stubborn comment to make to your significant other, Kristina said this wasn\u2019t the biggest red flag she sees when talking to couples.<\/p>\n
She added: \u2018The biggest red flag, I would say, is when one or both partners literally have stopped giving a s**t about anything in the relationship.<\/p>\n
\u2018This is the person that has kicked and screamed, been angry, voiced their needs, and this might have gone on for weeks, months or years, and now they\u2019re so physically and emotionally exhausted and discouraged that they genuinely just don\u2019t care what their partner does.<\/p>\n
\u2018Like, \u201cokay, you wanna go cheat on me? Fine, whatever, I don\u2019t even really care\u201d.\u2019<\/p>\n
Kristina believes that if you begin feeling apathetic towards your partner \u2018the chances of getting your relationship back are about 1%\u2019.<\/p>\n
She claims that this is why couples should make an effort to go to couples therapy early.<\/p>\n
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\u2018At least if you go to couples therapy when you\u2019re angry, to me, there\u2019s still hope,\u2019 she said.<\/p>\n
The video got nearly one million views on TikTok, with people agreeing that these signs are the point of no return.<\/p>\n
A wife commented: \u2018My husband has told me \u201cthis is how I am\u201d so I\u2019m like okay, time to save up.\u2019<\/p>\n
Another agreed, sharing: \u2018I had so many conversations with an ex about what I needed and it never came so I stopped talking about it. Said he was blindsided when I broke up with him.\u2019<\/p>\n
But some felt that reaching the stage of indifference was \u2018freeing\u2019 and Kristina could see where they were coming from.<\/p>\n
One commenter even said: \u2018I found myself thinking \u2018I don\u2019t really care anymore\u2019 and it\u2019s so liberating.\u2019<\/p>\n
Kristina replied: \u2018I believe this is why people end up preferring this place \u2014because it\u2019s much less exhausting and empowering even if it ultimately feels crappy still.\u2019<\/p>\n