DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my girlfriend but she is very demanding.
We have been together for a year and it was her birthday recently.
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I said I would get her a cake and a gift, and paint the town red with her.
She insisted she would choose the cake so I had to drive her to the bakery after doing my night shift.
She said she would choose the card for me to give her.
I reluctantly accepted that but then she said that her birthday night out was going clubbing with her mates without me.
I am 29, she is 22 and an only child.
Her parents have always indulged her and it feels like she expects the same from me. Am I being too soft?
DEIDRE SAYS: In one word, yes.
Lasting relationships need give and take on both sides but your girlfriend expects you to do all the giving.
Tell her calmly that this must change if your relationship is to last.
My e-leaflet on Standing Up For Yourself will help get this across.
If she can’t see how vital this is, she is not the one for you.
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