DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE always known that I’m bisexual, but I never strayed since I met my wife – that is until I shared a passionate kiss with her brother last summer.
I am worried as she is trying to organise another family holiday this summer, once restrictions allow it.
I’m panicking and don’t know what to do. I’m 40 and my wife is 36, we’ve been married for eight years and have a five-year-old daughter.
Last summer, when things opened up a little, we all went to stay at a big family holiday home in Cornwall. My wife’s brother, wo is the same age as me, and his family went too.
Before the trip, I didn’t know her brother well at all, but during the two-week holiday I spent a lot of time with him.
We discovered we share a love of fishing and would spend hours together talking on the river bank, while we waited for the fish to bite.
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One afternoon, I slipped on some mud and fell into him. Our eyes locked and, to my complete surprise, we shared a long, sensual kiss. It was deeply exciting, stirring feelings I haven’t had for a long time.
Afterwards, things got really awkward and I felt disgusted with myself, not just for cheating on my wife, but also because it was with her brother.
I made excuses not to go fishing with him again and invented an urgent work reason to go home to London.
In my youth, I had happy relationships with men and women.
But when I met my wife in 2013, I fell deeply in love with her, and I still love her more than I’ve ever loved anyone.
Since we got together, I haven’t looked at anyone else — male or female — apart from her brother.
The guilt is still eating me up. How can I live with it? What if her brother says something to his wife or mine? If this comes out it could ruin both our marriages.
I don’t want to go away with him again but don’t know how to avoid it.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Yes, you did betray your wife but it was a kiss, nothing more. You have learned this was a big mistake. Your guilt and regret are punishment enough.
It’s unlikely he’ll say anything now, but if you find yourself alone with your wife’s brother again, tell him it can never be repeated, or spoken about.
Make it clear you love his sister, and you would do anything not to jeopardise what you have together. I’m sure he will be relieved that you feel this way.
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