How do I get over the death of my beloved cat?
27th May 2022

DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my cat died a month ago, I have been heartbroken.

She has been part of my life since I was a ten-year-old boy, when my parents bought her as a kitten.

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I’m now 23 and can’t imagine life without her.

This isn’t something I can talk about with my mates – they just wouldn’t take it seriously, or they’d laugh at me and call me a wuss.

She was always there, ready for a cuddle, and being around her helped when I was stressed.

But she became old and sick, and when we took her to the vet, he said she had cancer.

The kindest thing was to have her put to sleep.

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I don’t want to get a new cat because that seems wrong – like just trying to replace her.

How can I get over this?

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DEIDRE SAYS:  It can be devastating losing a pet and the impact on the owner’s life should not be underestimated.

Your cat was in your life for a long time, so now you are grieving.

It would help you to talk to someone who understands your pain.

Contact Blue Cross (, 0800 096 6606) who offer pet bereavement support.


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Perhaps hold a little memorial ceremony for your cat, to say goodbye.

In the future, you may feel ready for a new cat – not as a replacement but as a new companion.

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