Rosa Hoskins says the death of her father Bob Hoskins was so much harder for her because he was famous.
The writer and actress has opened up about how strangers expressing grief when her father died in 2014 at the age of 71 following a battle with pneumonia affected her.
She admitted that she struggled to accept that people who didn’t know her dad were upset about his passing.
Rosa spoke about her struggle last week as she joined a panel discussion for charity Grief Encouter, where Mirror Online was in attendance.
The charity helps children dealing with the loss of a parent or sibling.
Rosa, 35, said: "Him being famous is a bit of a double-edged sword, because in some ways his fame was difficult to deal with and it felt like people, when he died, the news went round the world and it was like people felt entitled to a piece of him, because they felt like they knew him.
"And I think because he was an authentic, genuine person, that people just assumed that they knew who he was and they didn’t, so they were like, ‘Oh your dad was like this’, and I’d say ‘No he wasn’t, you don’t know what you’re talking about’.
"But then on the other hand, what I did realise as well was sometimes you need to allow other people to have their grief and allow other people to express their affection to someone. That’s their experience and I’m not going to take that away from them."
Rosa, who wrote about her close relationship with her father in her book It’s All Going Wonderfully Well: Growing up with Bob Hoskins, said she felt like part of her died when he did.
Rosa was extremely close to her father, who was famous for his roles in movies like Who Framed Roger Rabbit, Hook, and The Long Good Friday.
She told attendees at the event: "I was talking to someone the other day and I was saying that I think the Rosa I was before he died sort of died with him. But who’s left?
"I’m possibly a bit more wary of the world because I think when you’ve lost someone you know that things really can go wrong and you know that the world despite your best efforts and despite your most hopeful dreams and optimism, you feel like you have died.
"But I feel, on the other hand, that’s very pessimistic and a bit nihilistic, and I think the most valuable and important thing for me that’s come out of that loss is the knowledge that grief is the cost of love, and I would rather pay the price.
"My dad and I were really close and we got on really well and his last words to me, and I’m probably going to tear up a bit at this, were ‘You’re the most beautiful girl in the world and I love you so much’.
"And that’s what I carry with me. So the pain that I feel that he’s not here and the anger I feel that he’s not here is kind of counterbalanced by the fact that he loved me, and the fact that he was great, and that we got on well."
She added: "I think it’s really important that we change the way that death and grief is viewed because we’re so awkward and icky and embarrassed by it, we don’t then see it in it’s entirety, and it’s bittersweet, because at the end of the day, love is the only thing that’s worth anything, it’s literally the only thing that’s important, so it’s better to have it and risk losing it. It costs what it’s worth."
To find out more about Grief Encounter, go to www.griefencounter.org.uk
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