WHEN it comes to throwing a birthday shindig, it's your party, your rules. Or is it?
One pair of parents have been criticised on Mumsnet for organising an "adults only" birthday party but allowing their own children to attend as well as some of their children's friends.
Taking to the parenting forum to voice their upset, one anonymous parent wrote: "Totally prepared to be told that I am being unreasonable," they said.
"I know it's not my party.
"A family member is having a birthday…
"Family members are invited but not their children."
The parent went on to explain that the party organiser's children are attending the shindig, as well as some of their mates.
"They are obviously invited to their parents' party… OK I get that BUT the party giver's kids are inviting their friends," they said.
"I am upset that family children aren't invited even though they get on with their cousins but random kids (some of whose parents aren't invited) will be there.
"I know, it's not my party."
The post divided the forum, with many agreeing with the parent.
One wrote: "It's very odd that there will be friends of their kids there but not family kids. I think that's very weird."
While another wrote: "So they won’t invite their younger relatives but will invite their children’s friends?
"I suppose if it’s a very small number to keep them company that might be OK – but if they have cousins the same/similar ages why can’t they keep each other company.
"I realise their party their rules but on first reading it seems very rude."
Another called it unusual while some deemed it strange.
Others sympathised with the parents, explaining it's "their party, their rules".
"They're not random kids, they are friends of the partygoers kids," wrote one.
"Maybe they asked their children who they wanted to invite to keep them company and they chose their friends."
Another said: "You said it, it's their party.
"They can invite who they want.
"Remember that old adage – you can choose your friends but not your family.
"Family friends kids are wanted, some relations kids (not saying yours) not wanted."
Others said it wasn't a big deal while some suggested it depended on how close the family are.
One wrote: "No, I get that if an adult is hosting a (say 50th) birthday party for their friends, that they don't want toddlers and little [children] there.
"The fact their [children] are all able to invite a friend or two each (who will presumably also be adults and not need looking after), isn't really relevant.
"Three or four adults that are friends with their [children] is a very different dynamic from 5 – 10 little kids."
What do you think?
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